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The Cost Of Forgiveness

Categories: Anger Management

Forgiving Has Costs

Most people have a really hard time letting go.  Instead, they hold on to anger from past hurts, practice unforgiveness, and hold grudges.  And they pay a high price for these actions.

Unforgiveness has high costs.  People who struggle to forgive and move on often suffer from:

  • Depression
  • Headaches
  • Back/neck pain
  • High blood pressure
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Stomach pain
  • Ulcers
  • Poor relationships
  • Increased stress

If you suffer any of these symptoms, there is a good chance that unforgiveness is causing a problem for you in your life.  Bitterness and resentment can ravage your health on both an emotional and a physical level.  Letting go is vitally important because holding anger is a poison.  It eats you from the inside.  We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us.  But hatred is a curved blade.  And the harm we do, we do to ourselves.

Excerpt from “Take Control of Your Anger: A step-by-step guide to Anger Management” by Michael Ballard, MA, NCC, LPC

Author: Kevin Leapley

Kevin Leapley is the director of sexual addiction counseling at Front Range Counseling Center in Denver Colorado. Kevin has received specialized training by Dr. Patrick Carnes and obtained his CSAT (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist). Kevin is also a level II EMDR counselor for treating trauma.

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